That sensitive bonding period
A friend had only one hour to bond with her baby before the hospital took him away for some problem. She was not able to hold her baby for two weeks.
I seem to remember something about a key period *directly* after birth that should not be missed.
Indeed there is a magical period during and after a birth. Hormone states are at their lifetime peak. This creates a field, light, that everyone is uplifted and inspired by.
Most of Joe’s writings point to the ideal, natures’ billion year plan, and how we interfere and therefore have a tendency for parents to feel that they have failed, when it is the culture that has failed the parent who trusted. Hospital births interfere with this natural ideal in many ways so it is difficult to say to what extent your friend missed out, if at all, given the norm.
Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? That is what bonding is, a harmonic resonance that is not imagined. It is available any moment, dependent on the highest link in the chain. Rather than be depressed about missing some illusive moment, take heart. Transform that sorrow into joyful exuberance for being exactly who you are this magical moment – nothing less than a miracle tenfold.
Meet the baby with this light in your heart and eyes and there is nothing that will prevent he or she from falling in love again and again, each moment you share together. This is what boding is, a conscious recognition of the miracle that we are, each reinventing the other to rediscover this – right now – whatever that moment is.
A traumatic birth for mother or baby does create reflexive patterns that make this moment by moment reincarnation more challenging. All the more reason to transform these limiting habits each time they arise.