childhood

Forward to the third edition
Magical Parent - Magical Child
by
Michael Mendizza with
Joseph Chilton Pearce

michael mendizzaMagical Parent – Magical Child began with a simple insight; The Future Is Now. If I am aggressive or kind today chances are I will be the same way tomorrow and my children will be too. If I want to bring about real change, a new pattern or possibility, a baby step forward in evolution it must take place now, this moment. By changing how I think, feel and act - now - I create a different next moment. If I don’t change now - I will be tomorrow what I am today.

Gandhi said; ‘be the change we want to see in others’. This insight brings that change, which is the future, into the present. Right now is where all the action is. Now is the only chance we’ve got.

magical parent magical child bookJoseph Chilton Pearce added depth to this basic insight when he described the ‘model imperative’ in his best selling book, The Magical Child. Each of us represents vast capacities, more and greater than ever imagined. The awakening and development of each capacity requires a model-environment to serve as a catalyst for that potential’s opening and development. No model – no development. That is the ‘model imperative’.

What does this mean to you and me and most importantly our children - the future of humanity? Millions of years of genetic memory and potential are packed into every cell and trillions of these cells combine to make up each unique human being. In the past genetic encoding was viewed as a rather fixed, mechanical blueprint.

Recent discoveries tell us that genetic expression is far less fixed than ever imagined. Fixed patterns do exist however, the entire system is constantly adapting. That means changing, transforming in response and in relationship to environmental signals. Genes are much more verbs, moving, changing, than nouns. The entire human experience is one of constant change - surfing the ever-changing waves of the universe.

toy interviews
M: Jane, you work with preschool children, with their parents and were a consultant to Brio toys for a number of years. What do you look for in a good toy?

J: I always look for a toy that doesn’t do very much because the less the toy does the more the child can bring his or her imagination or ideas to it. It is call an open-ended toy.
M: Let’s talk about that.

J: An open-ended toy is one that can be used in a variety of ways and by children of different ages and at different stages in their development. My favorite example are building blocks because for the two year old they’re pretty much are carrying them around, lining them up on a horizontal level, and then perhaps stacking or bridging or enclosing.

It’s so interesting to see parent’s reactions because they buy a set of building blocks and they have this great idea, ahh - castles or space stations and they get disappointed when a child might only line them up. But that’s what a two year old does and that is in preparation for those later stages.
 
Blocks, being an open-ended toy, can be one experience for the two year old. It can be another experience for the eight year old. They’ll use it in different ways. Open-ended toys also have no right or wrong. A child can build a tower and put the heaviest block on top, what’s going to happen? It’s going to fall over. That’s not wrong. They’re discovering something. Maybe they’re learning a little bit about gravity or balance and so a good open-ended toy will allow the child to experiment.
 
Open-ended toys are also unstructured. It doesn’t do anything until the child comes into the scene. The child brings the object to life by adding their imagination to it. Providing children with good open-ended toys, I think, is the best way to encourage them to explore not only materials but different concepts through their imagination.

M: There are a lot of adult overlays on what we consider to be child’s play or play in general. Have you seen that manifest with both the people that are making toys and also with parents?

J: I see it in both areas, certainly in toy companies and manufacturers because they want to have something new and exciting every year to present at toy fair or to sell, and of course they want to make money and so they need more product.

It’s a very consumer oriented society that we’re in. I think the parent is also looking for something new and exciting to entertain their child or to give them something that they think will please the child or maybe out of their lack of attention they will give an object that they feel says I love you. So I think both the toy companies and the parents get caught in that trap of something more, something new.

It amazes me today how many places you can find toys. As a child I think the only place was maybe a toy store or in a catalog. And now you can go to the grocery store, and the drug store, the gift shop, every place. Even at food establishments you can get a toy. It’s pretty alluring for the child because they’re seeing them every place. I’m amazed too when I’ve done focus groups with parents and we ask the question how often do you buy a toy for a child? It’s not just at a birthday or at a holiday; some parents told me that they buy a toy every time they go to the store. Maybe it’s only a two or three dollar item, but it’s overwhelming.

We have two possibilities, and the full continuum in-between: a brain that is nourished with rich sensory experiences from birth forward, one that integrates and therefore understands, with true intelligence, what it experiences with balance and harmony - and a sensory deprived brain, a brain that is constantly at war with itself.

Grow up, kid – there’s no Santa. And Mickey and Bugs, they aren’t real either. In doing so we become big fat liars and kids know it. If we lie about Santa, why would they believe anything we say - ever?

How storytelling develops imagination. Imagination goes much deeper than make-believe play and storytelling. Imagination is a mental field, a swirling flood of impressions, a movement of the immediate present blending seamlessly with the distant past.

Words are symbols or triggers that stimulate a subtle replica of the original experience within the brain.

In subtle but profound ways the brains of our children are different from ours. The way
they access and process information has changed.

If much of what we think and do this moment is not intelligent, what action can take place right here, right now, that will break the pattern that keep creating the problems that are crushing us? How do we access and gather the energy and attention necessary to transcend and transform the normal states in which we live?

Adults are the Next Frontier in Education – not Children.

To learn the mind must be free. It is only the free mind that can hold or perceive something new, while the mind that is full sloughs around and usually ends up making a mess.

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