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Forward to the third edition
Magical Parent - Magical Child
by
Michael Mendizza with
Joseph Chilton Pearce

michael mendizzaMagical Parent – Magical Child began with a simple insight; The Future Is Now. If I am aggressive or kind today chances are I will be the same way tomorrow and my children will be too. If I want to bring about real change, a new pattern or possibility, a baby step forward in evolution it must take place now, this moment. By changing how I think, feel and act - now - I create a different next moment. If I don’t change now - I will be tomorrow what I am today.

Gandhi said; ‘be the change we want to see in others’. This insight brings that change, which is the future, into the present. Right now is where all the action is. Now is the only chance we’ve got.

magical parent magical child bookJoseph Chilton Pearce added depth to this basic insight when he described the ‘model imperative’ in his best selling book, The Magical Child. Each of us represents vast capacities, more and greater than ever imagined. The awakening and development of each capacity requires a model-environment to serve as a catalyst for that potential’s opening and development. No model – no development. That is the ‘model imperative’.

What does this mean to you and me and most importantly our children - the future of humanity? Millions of years of genetic memory and potential are packed into every cell and trillions of these cells combine to make up each unique human being. In the past genetic encoding was viewed as a rather fixed, mechanical blueprint.

Recent discoveries tell us that genetic expression is far less fixed than ever imagined. Fixed patterns do exist however, the entire system is constantly adapting. That means changing, transforming in response and in relationship to environmental signals. Genes are much more verbs, moving, changing, than nouns. The entire human experience is one of constant change - surfing the ever-changing waves of the universe.

We have two possibilities, and the full continuum in-between: a brain that is nourished with rich sensory experiences from birth forward, one that integrates and therefore understands, with true intelligence, what it experiences with balance and harmony - and a sensory deprived brain, a brain that is constantly at war with itself.

Brain growth and everything it implies is ‘experience dependent’. The last decade of research reveals a reciprocal dynamic between the brain and the environment. Change the environment and your change the brain. In many ways our modern life style is deficient in body touch and body movement – and this impacts the brain.

If we want to become good cooks, we play, practice, try new things. The same is true or parents and the people who care for children.

Pleasure and happiness provide the “glue” that attach and bond human relationships.

Parents must reinvent themselves, in different ways, right along with their children. But they don’t.

A case for investing at least as the same attention and resources to inspire and mentor adults, parents and childcare providers, as we no give to the care and education of young children.

Personal and international peace is impossible when aggressive, violent abuse of children is accepted, even encouraged as normal throughout the world. I see it every day, rich and poor, black and white. Abuse is normal.

What we think of as the ego only pops up along with the need to defend or justify. The less security, the louder it screams and the more dominance it asserts in order to protect its image.

Looking at my own family system was where I discovered normal wasn’t healthy. How the socialization process itself here and what I call the excited States of America may be normal but it’s not healthy.

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